What’s it about?
Watch this interview with Michael Hauge.
Understanding this stuff will make future conversations much easier.
All roads lead to the hero’s outer motivation.
Simplicity is key.
Feel stuck? Figure out “what it’s about”.
Do that and things will start to work.
You’ll know when it’s off, why it’s off, and how to change it.
If you don’t know the point — you’ll never get it.
Simple… not Easy.
Reality is an acquired taste.
Not for everyone. We sooth ourselves against uncertainty. Love to make simple things complex.
We let our imagined sense of self get lost in the minutia. Forget what we’re about. Argue for our own limitations. Speculate reasons that our circumstances are special.
Why we feel lost or stuck.
No clear finish line.
Deep down you know…
When you get there, it still won’t be enough.
Creating the life you want is a practice.
You’ll need to build capacity. Create momentum. Don’t start big. Start small.
(however small you think that is, go even smaller.)
What’s it about?
In the video, Hague says something about movies, that is infinitely valuable for self-help junkies like me.
“So caught up in the inner journey, the depths and the dimensions of ‘the character”, lost in a thicket of events and plot twists — until they’re finally just coming up with new ideas and the story gets sidetracked, complicated and so confusing that there’s really no story at all.”
Want a better story…
Simplify. What’s it about? Your life up til now. What’s the point?
Your day to day life…
Groundhog Day — what’s it about?
Are you lost in the thicket?
Caught up in the inner journey?
So wrapped up in the inner depths and dimensions of your own character
that you’re not taking the actions that will drive the story to conclusion?
Back in 2013 — I was stuck in single mode. Hated being a 37 year old loser. Frustrated I couldn’t get it together. I couldn’t live up to the ideal version of who I wanted to be and live the life I thought I deserved, but never really put in the effort to earn.
For a while I stopped trying to be some idealized version of me.
Summer 2013 was about learning how to be happy in hell.
I played Groundhog Day. Practiced living a simple life. No where else to be. Nothing to prove. No hope for a better life.
Wrote every morning.
It took a while to get out of my head and be okay with just showing up to whatever showed up.
About 6 or 8 weeks later, I knew what “It was about”
Write. SUP. Love.
Created a vision.
Anyone who knows me, saw me live this over the past several years.
Didn’t move to Hawaii. But, met a wonderful woman. Paddled. Wrote. Became a better man than I could have imagined back then.
The original video was created in 2013. Updated to that version in 2014. I’ll show some of you how to create your “No Matter What 2.0 Version” down the road.
Take a moment to see if you can define what it’s about — Know where it’s going.
Define ‘the’ GOAL
Everything needs to be about that goal.
“For the script to work you have to open inside the “every day life” and give the audience time to build empathy.”
Earlier I said, “reality is an acquired taste.”
Press pause. Take an objective look at your life. Stop trying to make it fit some idealized vision you have in your head, and things get simple. It’s not easy.
So, imagine that this moment is the opening scene of your transformational journey.
Who is the character? Who’ve they been up to this point? Where are they paying lip service?
After you have that.
Jump to the end.
What’s it about?
Where are you going?
Remember — tension and resolution. Don’t use this as an excuse to beat yourself up. Note the word objective. Your opinion of yourself says nothing about you.
Know where you are and where you want to be. Determine what’s not part of that story. Adjust things as you go.
Proper tension drives your story resolution.
Make sure you don’t create the wrong tension, or sooth yourself from feeling the right tension.
Don’t focus on what you wish were real.
Look at what is real.
Create change where necessary.
Think of your life as a series — episodes.
Scenes throughout the day.. weeks… months.
Each scene has its own tension and resolution. Resolve the right things. (That’ll make sense eventually). And go to commercial break whenever needed.
The point I’m trying to make is, that you need to look at your choices. Do they drive your story forward? If not, they don’t belong.
Michael teaches a third mistake, and gives us this little nugget.
“Don’t rush the story.
Take all of Act I to create the necessary tension.
“If you start at page 10 — with the hero pursuing the goal and your script will die at page 70.”
“You can’t sustain a single goal that long.”
In other words.
SLOW DOWN and Get Real with Yourself.
Every day is a new beginning.
You woke up today and started on page 20. That’s why your goals keep dying.
- Don’t get so caught up in the inner journey.
- Stop examining the depths and the dimensions of ‘the character’.
- Don’t get lost in a thicket of events and plot twists of your past.
- Notice the urge to come up with new ideas, plans, and problems.
Don’t let your real story get sidetracked.
Stop making it complicated and so confusing that there’s really no story at all.
Stop trying to plan out every move
Let the mystery of life unfold for you.
Co-create a better story as it unfolds.
Just show up to what shows up and make different choices.
Change the script.
You’re on a choose your own adventure.
Hope this helps.
Love your face!