Re: Get Out of Your Own Way
From: 1,144 Miles SW of Henry’s Pond
Saturday, 5:23 am
I have no idea how you found this page.
Possibly a client sent you. Could’ve been social media. Maybe a little bit of internet magic.
Whatever it was…
I’m honored. I serve at your pleasure.
You might be wondering what this is all about.
(maybe even what the hell you’re doing here.)
I can’t answer the second part for you.
As to the first part, let’s start with what this isn’t about.
Soul Surfer School is not about “Moonshots,” Hustling Your Face Off, or 10Xing this or that — those come later.
And forget about limiting beliefs, hacks, and motivational memes.
No Faking it to make it…
This is about getting Real. Raw. And Going deep.
It’s about learning to..
Get Out of Your Own Way
Let Yourself Be Who You’re Meant to Be.
It’s about the eternal struggle being of two worlds (spiritual/material).
For some of us “living your best life” and all of what that entails (feeling not enough, anxiety, frustration, shame)…
The Struggle is Real.
It’s unavoidable. Messy. Necessary. And Required of us all.
We are in it together. Fighting the good fight. For ourselves and for each other.
If you take this path, you might not “make it.” There is no guarantee. No pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. No magic buttons.
There is work.
And it’s worth it.
We do cover Moonshots, dream boards, and other traditional tools for personal and professional transformation. To do more, you first have to be more. That’s what this is about.
Welcome to Soul Surfer School.
Hello Wayward Traveler.
I’m Tim McAuley, your Soul Surfer School Guide.
I know it isn’t easy trying to keep it all together, especially when you secretly wish you could just burn it all to the ground. I get that conflict all too well. Sometimes it feels as if your day to day responsibilities is suck the life out of you.
It’s painful. On paper, and to the people who know you, there is nothing to complain about. A lot of people have it a hell of a lot worse. It can all seem pretty overwhelming.
You know exactly what to do, but just can’t seem to freakin do it… (stick to the budget, the diet, or the latest program of business growth and personal development). It sucks being stuck in your head.
Makes you feel a little broken.
I get it. And I think there’s a simple way out of the rut. I can’t say it’ll be easy. Quite frankly it might not work, but it worked for me.
I felt stuck, fragmented, and a little broken for most of my adult life.
I worked a bartender and a server. It was fun. I got to bounce around from city to city, state to state and enjoy being semi-retired — yet craved something more.
I had a vision. Put it on a dream board. And for a few reasons, my attention got pulled in a million different directions — none of them in the direction of my dreams.
Things changed in 2018.
I spent a little over two months basically living in a recliner next to my Dad’s bed at a nursing home in Cambridge, Ohio. He died on April 17. The experienced shook me to my core.
Grief like I’ve never experienced. Living the life I lived before became unbearable. Everything lost appeal. My daily routines seemed so pointless and wasteful. I nearly blew up my marriage (and my wife is freakin awesome).
But, after sitting next to a death bed for a several weeks, and having made a few promises to Dad, I knew I needed to Pull Myself Together — and change the way I show up in the world.
One day I stumbled on a video that reminded me of Carl Jung’s ideas of the Fractured Psyche. It knocked me for a loop. How I missed the this part of his work for all of these years is beyond me. But, I did. And, all of a sudden, I realized why I felt so broken. I sort of was. A lot of us are.
It’s pretty easy to get confused. Sort of natural to over identify with the Mask we where. We’re basically taught from an early age to repress our authentic expressions. In doing so, we block off deep wells of our emotional pallet. And this traps us into a false dichotomy reality.
We Protect Our True Self in a Shell Identity
The Shell Runs Our Life.
Most of us never do the deep inner work to break the shell and get free.
The un-lived life stays trapped.
The Shell suffocates the real Self. This slowly kills you, and drives some of the oddest behaviors. All that dumb shit you do, and the dumb shit you see other people do, traces back to the Fragmentation — The Shell.
I would love to help you Break Your Shell.
I’m not sure I can, but I can tell you the story of how I did it. Hopefully, it’ll guide you through some ideas, principles, and realizations that inspire your own breakthrough.
Or, at the very least, point you in a good direction.
Just so you know. This might not be safe. Some people need a hard shell. Breaking it hurts. Living without it feels raw most of the time.
The best I offer is tell you the story of how I cracked mine, and how life is different now.
I’ll also explain why I want to stay broken.
In the past several months, I’ve been working one on one with a few people. They’ve rewarded me handsomely for the gifts they discovered. And encouraged me to find a way to leverage my efforts to reach more people, and inspire more breakthroughs.
That’s what this is all about.
I publish a weekly essay here on Soul Surfer Schoo. And Each week send emails to people on the list. Some of those take the conversation deeper. Others just read quietly.
There are two boxes below.
One will lead you to the Archives.
Read a few and if you find them valuable, want to get a Saturday Soul Surfer Session delivered to you for the low, one time price of FREEfiddy…
If you’d prefer to keep your email address, no worries.
The website is here for you if you. The Archives get updated weekly. Save the address.
Life is a choose your own adventure.
Choose wisely my friend.
Hope this helps.
Love Your Face!
“The Metaphorical Soul Surfer”
Seriously, it’s a metaphor. I really suck at surfing. It’s a tiny bit embarrassing considering the whole soul surfer school thing.